Bitterness can ruin your life and steal all of your joy. Have you ever been hurt and had a hard time getting past it? Who hasn’t? Don’t Let Bitterness Steal Your Betterness.
In church yesterday, the speaker mentioned one of his children loving a song from the movie Frozen, and the words “Let it Go.” We all know people who are holding on to things that they just cannot let go. Someone has hurt them, and that wound has festered and festered until they have become bitter. Perhaps you don’t just know someone like that; maybe that actually describes you.
Every one of us has circumstances in our life that wound us. But have you noticed with some people they seem to get better. Trials and difficulties, even those, which come through hurt, make them stronger. On the other hand, some simply become bitter.
There is a significant word in our language that needs to describe a significant action that takes place in our lives on a regular basis. That word is forgiveness, and we need to take the action to forgive. Let me be clear. Forgiveness is a choice that we make. It is a decisive action to cancel the debt of the hurt that we have been dealt.
One of the greatest verses in the Bible to challenge us in this area is found in Ephesians 4:32: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, FORGIVING each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” This is an incredible challenge. No one can ever hurt us as much as our sins hurt God. Through Christ He has set the example, and provided an ability to forgive that we otherwise could not achieve. We are to be kind to one another, and one of the chief evidences of that kindness is the decisive act of forgiving.
When we forgive someone, “we let it go.” More significantly, it literally means that we cancel the debt. We determine that we will never bring it back up to the detriment of the other person. It is gone. There is a penalty, however, to not making this choice of forgiveness. Unforgiveness binds our hearts in a prison that was created by another person’s actions. It becomes like a “cancer” eating away at our soul robbing us of our joy.
When we hold on to hurt, it will entrench itself in our lives over time becoming more and more difficult to deal with. The Bible speaks of it as a “root of bitterness”. Hebrews 12:15 describes this as a result of coming short of God’s act of grace in our lives. When it begins to set itself deeply in our spiritual being, it causes all kinds of problems, physical, psychological, and spiritual. The writer of Hebrews says it defiles many.
So let me encourage you today to take inventory. What is there in your life that you are holding on to that is creating a bitterness that is robbing you of your betterness? Will you make a choice today to forgive them? Let it go.